Are you concerned about an impending or ongoing divorce? Are you having problems dealing with this transition in your life after divorce?
Divorce involves arguments, financial limitations, physical separation, anger, child care problems, legal matters and many other issues. Emotions run high and this can affect your normal life functioning or your ability to deal with your partner or children. Your finances may be affected as well. Bottom line, it’s a really tough time.
You may have trouble making decisions. Your children may have many questions you can’t answer. Living arrangements are changed and confusing to kids. Children may have to change their school. Attorneys must be involved and often also the court. Daily negotiations are necessary with your former partner and emotion will affect these. There may be shame or guilty feelings and withdrawal from friends. Someone else may be supervising your children on a daily basis and may not have the same values or structure that you do. Infidelity is often prelude to divorce and that in itself is a lot to absorb and process.
Clients often tell me that going through a divorce can feel like grieving. A sense of loss is a common factor with divorce and must be dealt with, as you would after a death. Substance abuse may play a role in the separation and treatment is necessary for this. All of the above issues may be present while couples are contemplating separation or even post-divorce. There is no easy time to approach these subjects, particularly if there are children involved.
Counseling can help. You should seek help if you are feeling depressed, anxious, resentful, angry, confused or overwhelmed. These feelings should be taken very seriously by you and possibly a doctor. However, they are appropriate reactions and can be addressed by a licensed counselor. BECKER COUNSELING can help you with these traumatic and frustrating times.
Call us today at 732.406.4422 and let’s start the healing.