Sometimes the hardest thing to do it walk away. But sometimes, it is the right thing to do. But before you do, really REALLY try your best to fix a broken marriage.
Check out this article on Esquire and some tough questions on if you are truly trying your best to fix a broken marriage.
Author Dave Holmes has some interesting things to say:
- “Not talking to your friends about what’s going on in your life? That’s not trying your best.
- Ditching couples therapy after three sessions? That’s not trying your best.
- Hanging onto hurtful things your partner said or did ages ago? That’s not trying your best.
- Fewer sexual encounters than there have been X-Men films? That’s…well, that’s just a hunger strike.
Raise the stakes. Circle a date on the calendar; let’s make it one year from today. Resolve that on that day, if you cannot both say there has been a significant improvement, then you will go your separate ways. Right now, you are showing each other that you are too passive to actually leave the relationship, so where’s the incentive to change?”