If you have cheated on your partner or been cheated on, your marriage is probably in trouble. But it may not be over. One of you may be talking about divorce or separation, but do not panic. Those reactions are normal and often peoples’ first thoughts. But those aren’t your only options. There is hope!
Often there are pre-existing issues that push couples apart and lead to partners developing emotional or intimate relationships with others. You may have drifted apart over the years and not given enough attention to eachother. This is understandable when you have a busy life, children, careers and responsibilities. One of you may be angry, weary, hurt or needing attention after a long period of neglect. Affection erodes slowly and then maybe another person becomes available to one of you. You may have unmet physical needs; and social media often plays a part in tempting these outside relationships. It’s a recipe for trouble.
What do you do now? Before hiring an attorney, we always recommend counseling as your first option for consideration. During therapy, the preexisting relationship problems will be explored in a comfortable environment. Anger and hurt feelings will be addressed. Questions will need to be asked and answered by all parties. Rebuilding trust will be the ultimate goal, but it takes an investment that requires personal commitment and possibly continued counseling. We have worked with many couples and helped facilitate successful rebuilding of relationships.
The important thing to remember is that, while it’s a long process and takes work, couples’ counseling often results in a stronger relationship. When you’re ready, we are always here to help. Call Becker Counseling at 732.406.4422